Why We Vlog

WHY WAS THE PENNIES VLOGS CREATED?

Don’t count the days, make the days count is phrase that sits on our shelf at home, to remind us that this world is full of days that we can make count. Though we both have to admit that I we are not good and making every day fun filled exciting times, I do hope that we can feel some sort of accomplishment when we lay our head on our pillow at night.  Not only do we feel like we sleep like logs after a fun filled day, we are happy that life has established our sense of accomplishment.

We have recently embarked into the world that is YouTube. Yup, took the leap and started a channel called “The Pennies Vlogs”. This channel was not only created to show our daily lives and the world we live in but we created it for multiple other reasons.  Starting primarily with having something to do to feel a sense of accomplishment every day, we wanted an activity we could do as husband and wife that we both enjoy and didn’t consist of watching TV, eating out or just vegging.  After 4 years of marriage we are excited to embark into the world of YouTube and enjoy every moment we get to spend together and with our viewers.  We would love for you to come along for the ride. Nothing like a little shameless self promotion. 

With so many of our friends and family confused as to why; we are writing today’s blog to do some explaining and to create a memory of why we started this crazy journey; and to have a  written reasoning to look back onto many years from now. 

We joined YouTube to have a platform to be able to share our lives with the world, our friends, our family and the community that is YouTube.  I (Nicki) have family and friends overseas, primarily within U.S and YouTube is one of the easiest ways for my family to not seem so far away, and personally I hope they enjoy watching our vlogs and establish the sense of not being on the other side of the world. It surely makes my family not seem so far away to me. I however may be  kidding myself and non of them have actually even looked at our vlogs, yet there is always hope. 

The first few vlogs we posted literally were done on a whim, we quickly uploaded after randomly deciding to film ours days a month ago. We really enjoyed it, and loved being able to look back on what we had done throughout the week.  Another week pasted and we posted a TMI tag and a challenge video. With a few (now new awesome friends) commenting on our videos we realised that people do enjoy our videos as much as we love creating them. At that moment The Pennies Vlogs was born and we been enjoying it ever since.

I know that the world of YouTube is something that some can’t fathom as to why we would want to be a part of, but we really understand and appreciate the sense of community it has given to us, not only in Australia but friendships established around the globe. Making new friends around the world has created the best "youtube family" we could have ever asked for. Don't know what we would do without you guys. 

To “The Bennetts” who found us as bloggers and encouraged us to vlog, thank so much, we are well and truly thankful. Thanks for reading, thanks for watching and we can’t wait to see what the future brings. 

-          Mrs & Mrs Pennycuick as " The Pennies Vlogs"

5 tips for sticking on while being sicked on

When you make that vow on your wedding day " ... in sickness and in health ... " it's more likely than not that you do not know what you are getting yourself into with the "in sickness" part. If you think it means "I promise to hand you more clean tissues to blow your nose" like I used to then you have no idea. The two hardest parts about marriage when your partner is sick are being there for them while they have their head over the toilet bowel, and looking after them when they are moody, crabby, irritable, uncomfortable, and in pain. This can get old fast, easily resulting in unnecessary fights. So here are 5 tips on sticking on while being sicked on...

5. Allow them feel like they are still helpful; don't make them feel totally dependent on you
In the later recovery stages of being sick your partner will want to start doing things again to help out. This is because they feel like you have done too much for them already and want to start helping out again. Don't deny them this joy and satisfaction of being able to help. It will aid in their recovery mentally as they feel that sense of accomplishment. Obviously make sure it is within their limits while they are still unwell because the last you want is to delay their recovery by over-exertion.

4. Don't get frustrated when they refuse your help
This ties into the previous point where you allow them the satisfaction of being able to do some normal things again, but it is more so focused on while they are fully sick. When sick, your partner may try to deny how sick they are by refusing your help or assistance. Remember, this is not your normal partner and so is no time to get upset with them because they refuse your good and caring intentions.

3. Go with the flow and don't complain
Consistent is by no means something your partner will be while sick. They may go from wanting you to be with them and (insert level of physical intimacy you are comfortable with while your partner is sick, eg, holding hands) to being repulsed by your presence. Be where you are needed, do what you are asked, and roll with the punches.

2. Don't complain about them being sick and not being able to for-fill your "needs"
When your partner is sick, their "needs" and the idea of your "needs" don't even enter their mind. Do not make any form of comment complaining about how your "needs" are not being met. Instead (if this is an issue for you) in the more comfortable moments of their sickness, make positive, longing comments which convey your desires without putting any pressure on them. Bonus points if you can make them still feel attractive and sexy even in their "not so great" moments. If you are lucky, you may even get a surprise once they are feeling better.

An example of a good comment would be: "You know, even when you are sick you are still desirable to me. I look forward to when you are feeling better again."

1. Make sure they know you will stay with them and love them in sickness and in heath
The last thing your sick partner wants to do is to repulse you, even if it is only by sickness. So continue to act the same loving way you would towards them (minus the appropriate level of physical contact based on sickness). Do whatever you have to to continue showing that affection - if you can't kiss on the lips, kiss on the forehead; if you can't kiss on the forehead, kiss on the shoulder; if you can't kiss on the shoulder, kiss on the hand.

Words - Use them, listen to them

Words are your most powerful relationship management tool, so it is important in your relationship that you learn to use them correctly and learn to listen to them correctly. This is especially true in early relationships while you are still learning to anticipate your partner (which you will never fully master because, well, people change).

Understanding the language of LOVE

Love is an emotion that you feel for your spouse. It burns inside you, keeps you awake at night, and drives you to keep going. There are things your partner does for you that stirs that emotion in you, and in the same way, there are things you do for them that makes them feel your love for them. Learning to identify and focus on showing your love in the most receptive way is vital to the success of a long and happy marriage.